HOW TO RECOGNIZE A KEEPER: 5 Signs of a Healthy and Thriving Intimate Relationship
We've all heard about red flags, but what about the green ones? These are the signs that your intimate relationship is not just surviving, but thriving. Here are five green flags to look for in bed that signal a strongtt, healthy connection with your partner.
- Understanding It’s Not Personal
It’s a great sign when your partner understands that not every sexual encounter needs to end in an orgasm for it to be enjoyable. They know that if it takes longer than usual or doesn't happen at all, it’s not a reflection on them or the experience. Understanding that most women need 20 to 30 minutes to get fully aroused and lubricated shows they’re patient and considerate of your needs. No rush, no pressure—just enjoyment and connection.
- Deriving Pleasure from Your Pleasure
A major green flag is when your partner is genuinely excited about your pleasure. They’re not just focused on their own experience but are invested in making sure you’re having a great time too. It’s all about mutual enjoyment and satisfaction, making the experience even more fulfilling for both of you.
- Being Open to Intimacy Accessories
Whether it’s vibrators, lubricants, or arousal creams, a partner who’s mature and open-minded about using intimacy accessories is a keeper. They understand that these tools can enhance your shared experiences and aren’t just about their own performance. This openness shows they’re focused on exploring pleasure together in various ways, making the experience rich and varied.
- Flirting All Day
Who says sex starts in the bedroom? A partner who flirts with you all day—sending funny or flirty texts, playful touches, or cheeky winks—knows how to build anticipation. This playful connection keeps the spark alive and makes the actual moment of intimacy feel like the climax of a day-long romance novel.
- Communicating Wants and Boundaries
Communication is key in any relationship, especially in bed. A green flag is when your partner can openly talk about what they want and don’t want and encourages you to do the same. This level of communication ensures that both of you are comfortable, happy, and ready to explore each other’s desires. It’s about creating a safe space where you can both express your needs and boundaries freely.
Recognizing these green flags can reassure you that you’re in a healthy, respectful, and pleasurable relationship. Celebrate these positive signs and keep nurturing your connection. Here’s to more love, laughter, and fabulous times in and out of the bedroom!
By: Amy Rowan
@amyrowanintimacycoach